Impact

Impact

Do you have impact?  If you are not sure, allow me to explain.

Impact, is when you walk in to a room and command attention.  Heads turn and the complexion of the room changes. 

People with Impact do not necessarily have charisma, but they do have that special level of self confidence.  They command attention simply by their presence.

They do not necessarily have to have notoriety.  But they do have a certain swagger.

So where do you get swagger?  It’s not something you can pick up at Wal-Mart (Heavens no).  You can’t order it on line.

Swagger comes from a certain amount of confidence.  Now, I am NOT talking of a braggart here.  Nor am I talking about a phony in your face type of attitude.  And, I am certainly not talking about a person who is filled with ego. 

I am talking about the person who has a “natural” command of attention wherever they go. 

Impact / swagger comes from belief in yourself.  It’s pure 100% self confidence. 

So where does self confidence come from?

Well, I believe self confidence comes from activity, motion, experiencing, and doing something……..knowing that you have given your all.

If you want to see it live – in action – watch Dancing With The Stars or American Idol and soon you will notice there are certain contestants who have impact.

I also believe that impact / swagger is (to a certain degree) earned respect.  That respect comes from colleagues, peers, persons in authority above you and persons below you.

CAUTION – swagger / impact also carries a certain amount of humility.

It also requires a person be very real.  A phony cannot have impact.  If they do attempt to have it, those around them can sniff it out like a limburger cheese.

You want to have swagger / impact?  Get rid of all self doubt.  Eradicate your mind of negativity.  Lose the victim mentality.  Drop the “I don’t deserve it” thinking.  Toss out the sarcasm.  Your mind cannot tell the difference between sarcasm and truth. 

Go ahead – do it now.  I’ll wait.

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I’m waiting.

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C’mon

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I know it’s hard.  But if it was easy, everyone else would do it.

For some of us, that may mean getting rid of a mighty big stone.  For others it may mean reframing your thinking. 

Confidence and negativity cannot coexist in your mind or your life. 

Daily, work on developing your swagger / impact.  You may even have to work on it hourly.  BUT, it’s well worth it – once you cross over that bridge to self confidence.

Let me offer a final word of caution to my readers.  That bridge is a two way bridge. 
It’s easy to slip back into an old pattern of behavior, thinking or lifestyle.

Bottom line, here – work on YOU every day.

Have a great week.

Ron