Things Learned From The Family Dog – part 4

Welcome to my weekly blog.  Each week, I will share some insight on topics such as goal setting, personal improvement, leadership and soft skills (dealing with people).  The information shared will be from my 10+ years in working with personal and leadership development.  From time to time I will have “guest” bloggers sharing their knowledge and insight. 

Through December, the weekly blog will feature Things To Learn From The Family Dog.  I will cover 4 topics:

Week 1 – Lay
Week 2 – Sit
Week 3 – Speak
Week 4 - Love

Feel free to share your thoughts and how this info has helped you.

Enjoy!

Things Learned From The Family Dog – part 4

Love

Merry Christmas to all my blog readers.

As we close out this 4 part blog series – I want to take a look at love.  True there are several types of love.  The one I am focusing on in this week’s blog is the type of love a dog shows.  It’s a unique unconditional “I’m happy you are home – glad to spend time with you” love.

A dog will love you no matter what your misgivings are.

A small child can pull on a dog’s tail or ears, poke at it, climb all over it, or even shove toys at it – and the dog will show that toddler love.

As we progress through the holiday time with friends and family – take time to show “that” kind of love a canine shows.  Show someone you love them, are happy to see them. Let them know you care about them.

Enjoy the Christmas weekend like you’ve never enjoyed it before.

Again, Merry Christmas!

Have a great week.

Ron

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Things Learned From The Family Dog – part 3 - Speak

 
Welcome to my weekly blog.  Each week, I will share some insight on topics such as goal setting, personal improvement, leadership and soft skills (dealing with people).  The information shared will be from my 10+ years in working with personal and leadership development.  From time to time I will have “guest” bloggers sharing their knowledge and insight. 

Through December, the weekly blog will feature Things To Learn From The Family Dog.  I will cover 4 topics:

Week 1 – Lay
Week 2 – Sit
Week 3 – Speak
Week 4 - Love

Feel free to share your thoughts and how this info has helped you.

Enjoy!
 

Things Learned From The Family Dog – part 3

Speak

Ahh the wonderfulness of communication.  Although non verbal communication has its merits (as I have blogged about in the past) – there is a definite need for the spoken word.

Sometimes you got to speak up in order to get your point across.

Most of the dogs I have had as pets have been larger.  We never had what some may call the “small yappy variety.”  That said, my opinion in this blog is based on the knowledge of owning a larger canine.

Big dogs know when to bark.  They know when to just growl.  And, they know when to be quiet.

Humans can learn a lot here.  There is a time to bark, a time to growl and a time to be quiet.

Larger dogs also know when the situation merits several barks or just one loud authoritative bark.

A loud bark sends a warning and / or a message.  Danger!  Caution!

A steady R rolling growl also sends a message that you are approaching a line that should not be crossed.

And, a series of barks sends the message that you are rapidly approaching aq situation where you may get bit.

So, how does this translate from the canine world to the human realm?

Well, we need to know when a situation warrants a growl, a single bark, a series of barks or should we just remain silent.

Knowing which tactic to use when is a science in and of itself. 

During the holidays, as friends and family gather for parties and family celebrations – apply the “wisdom of the canine speak”.  Learn when to give a gentle growl.  Learn when a single bark can apply.  And, learn when it is best to not speak at all.

Have a great week.

Ron   

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 Welcome to my weekly blog.  Each week, I will share some insight on topics such as goal setting, personal improvement, leadership and soft skills (dealing with people).  The information shared will be from my 10+ years in working with personal and leadership development.  From time to time I will have “guest” bloggers sharing their knowledge and insight.

Through December, the weekly blog will feature Things To Learn From The Family Dog.  I will cover 4 topics:

Week 1 – Lay
Week 2 – Sit
Week 3 – Speak
Week 4 - Love

Feel free to share your thoughts and how this info has helped you.

Enjoy!

Things Learned From The Family Dog – part2

Sit

Most dogs do it on command.

Most parents wish their children would do it more.

Truth is, we all must take time for a breather, to just stop and experience the present.

If your life is all about the hustle and bustle – go here – go there, let me caution you.  I once heard the quote, “Most people are so busy making a living that they don’t take time to make a life.”

Grab a book, plop down in a comfy chair and just sit.

Take 5 minutes a day to ponder life – let it be your quiet time.

If you are a religious person, take a break and just be still – let your one on one time be with your Creator.

No television, no cell phone, no X-Box – just sit.

Some folks prefer to do it in a room alone.  Others even prefer to turn off the lights.

Doing so allows your body time to catch up with itself.  It’s a time to rest.

As we ready ourselves and our homes for the upcoming holidays, take time to sit and experience the season, the decorations, those around you.

Have a great week.

Ron

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Things Learned From The Family Dog – part 1

Welcome to my weekly blog.  Each week, I will share some insight on topics such as goal setting, personal improvement, leadership and soft skills (dealing with people).  The information shared will be from my 10+ years in working with personal and leadership development.  From time to time I will have “guest” bloggers sharing their knowledge and insight. 

Throughout December, the weekly blog will feature “Things To Learn From The Family Dog”.  I will be covering 4 topics:

Week 1 – Lay
Week 2 – Sit
Week 3 – Speak
Week 4 - Love

Feel free to share your thoughts and how this info has helped you.

Enjoy!
            Things Learned From The Family Dog – part 1

Lay

There is no denying we live in a fast paced world.  Communication is shared at warp speed.  Job demands seem to increase every year.  Then, there is family responsibilities not to mention quality time with a spouse, children or other family members.

Everywhere we turn someone or something is tugging at our planners / calendars wanting more and more of our time.

With all this pressure and stress in a fast paced life, one would think it is easy to fall asleep the minute our bodies hit the mattress and pillow.  Yet for many, their body must wind down.

And, for some the body may be horizontal, but the mind is vertical and running to keep pace with life.  For others, the sand man is replaced with thoughts of tasks that need accomplished the next day. 

So what is a person to do?  We know we need rest. But, getting a solid 8 hours is a luxury or maybe even a utopian idea.

How can we relax when there is still so much to do?

The answer is quite simple.

For years, I have observed the various family dogs we have had – and I noticed there is one constant.

After the canine makes that ridiculous circle over and over to make sure they fit in the space, they all do the same thing to prepare themselves for rest.

Once in a laying down position – every dog will let out a huge sigh.

Why?  It calms them down from the stress of worrying about their owner or being on “guard duty” (no matter how effective or ineffective they are at it).

Try it.  Once in bed in a comfortable position – just take in a deep breath.  Hold it momentarily.  Then exhale slowly.

In doing so, you are sending a message throughout your body – saying it is time for rest.

From there, I like to do a mental preparation for sleep exercise.  I imagine my mind as a giant Etch A Sketch.  Mentally, I click “save” on all my data.  Then I imagine my mental slate being wiped clear – so I have no data floating through my mind.

It works every night for me.

Try it – and let me know how you do.

Have a great week.

Ron

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Prism or Prison

When light passes through it, a prism provides a beautiful array of light.  r.o.y.g.b.i.v. comes to mind when I was learning about such things in school.

Prison on the other hand reflects an array of shades of grey.  Having done 6+ years of prison ministry, I know all too well the sad, cold, loneliness of the colors of prison. 

One offers beauty while the other conjures up fear.  One offers hope, while the other offers nothing but despair.  One offers a wide range of creative freedom.  The other provides limited access controlled by iron bars, razor wire and steel gates.

Why, you may ask, am I offering a comparison like this in my weekly blog?

Whether you are in sales, marketing, relationship building, or simply just hanging out with friends and family – it matters whether you are a prison or a prism.

Prism people look at and talk about possibilities, opportunities, exciting challenges and dreams.

Prison people speak from a victim mentality.  They offer negativity, gossip, criticism, and an opportunity to join them as they live under a dark grey cloud of unfulfilling sadness.  They drag others down to their life of drudgery so that they don’t feel so alone.  They spread their depressed outlook on life like a fast moving cancer.

Prism people have a spring in their step, a purpose in their walk and are a joy to be around.

Prison people find joy in bringing others to their cesspool of daily living.

As we approach the holidays, many of us will be going to parties, gatherings and family events.   The choice is yours.  Will you be a prism person or a prison person?

If you are not sure which person you are, simply take a second look at your Facebook posts.  Do you whine, complain, moan and groan?  Or do you encourage, uplift, and offer a ray of sunshine.

Still not sure?  Well, look at your 5 closest friends.  Are they upbeat and positive?  Or are they dark clouds that brighten a room when they leave?

Again, it’s your choice.  Prism or Prison – it’s up to you.

Have a great week.

Ron  

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Lonely At The Top

Lonely at the Top

YOU!  Yes, you.  You are the above average employee.  Your work ethic is strong.  Your knowledge of your particular field puts you in the top 1%.  You are a hard worker.  You put in long hours.  You are a loyal and dedicated employee.  You are the one assigned extra tasks, responsibilities and projects.

You are also the target among the “average” crowd at work.  There are accusations on the color of your nose.  Others in your work section look at you and shake their head.

When a promotion or designation comes, your “co-worker friends” say they are happy for you.  But, you know better.  Some are jealous.  Others cannot believe they chose YOU.  Some create a “distance” between you and them.

Why is it so lonely at the top?

I don’t think there is an easy explanation.  Perhaps there are a number of answers to this question.

As you climb the corporate ladder, Caste system at work there are fewer and fewer people like you - the higher you climb.

The “average” person is just that AVERAGE.  Some are lazy or unmotivated.  Others are just passing their time – waiting for retirement.

The top can be lonely.

BUT, it also can be exciting, adventurous, challenging, fulfilling, and purposeful.

The key is to enjoy the journey.  Enjoy the opportunities and challenges afforded a person in your position.

Ya see, the minute you start looking at where you are at through “average” eyes – your climb and your journey will become drudgery.  Once you start looking at the negatives, the positive will disappear.  And, sadly – all the zest, adventure, and zeal drains out of you like a freshly snaked drain.

Yes, it is lonely at the top.  But the view is spectacular.

Understand that turkeys can never fly as high as eagles.  Eagles soar above the tree tops.  Turkeys have to duck and weave the branches in order to fly through the woods.

A turkey can never understand the view an eagle has.  A turkey cannot grasp an eagle’s desire to nest in the tree tops.  Turkeys rely on the tree branches for protection from the elements.  Eagles catch the currents of the wind and spread their wings wide to enjoy the view.

Is it lonely at the top?  You bet.  But soaring with other eagles challenges all the eagles to greater heights.

Over the years, I have had to come to an understanding that was shared with me by a mentor.  Some people in your life were put there for only a short season.  They were not meant to take the full journey with you.

That said, it does not make them bad people.  They just simply were not put in your life to make the entire journey with you. 

Don’t take your position in the tree tops for granted.  It’s a very quick (and sometimes devastating) tumble from the top.  And, many never regain their height after the fall. 

Respect the position you are at. 

You were the one chosen for the spot you are in.  You can handle the pressure, the work load, the decisions that need made and you have the creativity to continue growing.

Is it lonely at the top?

Yeah, but there is a reason why so many people look up at an eagle flying and stare with utter amazement.  They are a rare breed.

Have a great week.

Ron  

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Side Effects

Have you ever noticed that every commercial for a pharmaceutical product that is “supposed” to make our quality of life better has a disclaimer?  The announcer may speak faster or the print may get smaller or even scroll faster on the television screen – but the disclaimer is always there.  Ya know, for legal purposes – they say.

May cause drowsiness.  In some cases suicidal thoughts have occurred.  In rare cases, kidney or heart failure may occur.  If extreme vomiting or diarrhea should occur call your doctor.  Some patients experience night sweats.  Do not take while driving.  Avoid consuming alcohol when taking this medication.

The disclaimers are always there.  The disclaimers may cause symptoms that are worse than the original condition.  Yet, for some strange reason – we still take the stuff.  We assume that we won’t be the ones who are the statistic in the next series of commercials for the product.

We all know that there are consequences for our actions.  And, we all know that there is a chance of this or that happening when we consume any drug (be it prescribed or over the counter).

And, sadly, when we think of the word consequences or side effect – our mind immediately gravitates toward the negative end of the spectrum.

Well, in this week’s blog – I want to promote having a positive attitude. 

If you are one of the people who say, “I already have a positive attitude” then you need to read this blog just as much as the person with a negative outlook.  Simply by your response – you mentally went to the negative.

Having a positive attitude reduces stress.  In doing so, it improves your quality of life.

It also reduces drama in your life.  The drama queens feed off of negative people.  The drama people suck the life from an indifferent or negative person like a vampire sucks blood.  Then they use your drained emotions as a gasoline to power their dramatic lives.

It also enables one to see life from a totally different perspective.  Positive people seek out the upbeat, the uplifting, the encouragers, the people with creative juices flowing at warp speed. 

Positive people also have more opportunities come their way.  Why?  Because people want to be around an upbeat and happy person.  Take note – people flock to where the sun is.  Rarely do people gather under a rain cloud or a lightning storm.

When things happen – take a breath – pause – and ask yourself – should I respond to this or react to this?  Animals react to things and situations.  PEOPLE respond to things, situations and others – through utilizing a mental process.

In a situation – stop for a moment and think – am I going to allow this “thing”  to take over me or am I going to tackle and overcome it?

Side effects – they are not JUST negative.  The side effects of a positive attitude are:
•    Improved eye sight – you see the world in a different way
•    Improved awareness – when you don’t allow your problems to lead your way through life – you become more aware of what is beautiful around you.
•    Greater opportunities – people want to be around happy people.   The positive person is viewed as the person who has a good grip on life.  The positive person can be entrusted with more because they won’t quit.
•    Possible job promotion – employers and bosses would rather put someone upbeat and positive into a leadership role or management position.  Positive people are more responsible because they tend to take responsibility for things.
•    Feeling of satisfaction – looking back at what you have done or the way you handled a situation – from a positive light – is a feeling of great accomplishment.
•     Enhanced appreciation for life – positive people enjoy life more than the doom and gloom crowd.

So a word of caution……having a positive attitude DOES have side effects.  Try it – make a conscious effort to be more positive this week.  Then let me know what has occurred in your life, that’s a side effect.

Have a great week.

Ron  

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Dwarf Your Fear

We all have some sort of fear.

The question is, what do we with do with fear?  Do we avoid it?  Do we run away from it?  Do we acknowledge it and look the other way?  Do we face it head on?  Or, do we fight and overcome our fear?

I have a fear of heights.  2 steps up on a ladder and my mind gets as wobbly as my knees.

Recently, we had a steady rain falling in central PA.  As I opened the garage door there was a waterfall coming from the gutter over the garage door.  I looked at it for a moment.  I knew the culprit was those pesky falling leaves.  Apparently, they had held some sort of meeting and decided to all group together and create a jam that would clog the gutter or downspout.

I am not sure what possesses a leaf to unite with others and see how many of them could stuff the entrance to a downspout.  I just know they do it.

A thought occurred to me.  That backed up water could do some serious damage to my house. 

So, I went further into the garage and grabbed the extension ladder.  Mind you, it was still pouring down rain.  But, I kept saying to myself – “let’s solve this problem.”

I raised the extension ladder and steadied the foot pads.  Then, I ascended the ladder with a grocery bag over my hand to grab the slimy glop that was creating the jam up in the gutter.

As I dug around and scooped all shades of the fall textured goop – I heard the rushing sound of water going down the downspout. 

I looked to my right and saw the other downspout was also clogged.  So, I descended the ladder.  Once on the ground, I repositioned the ladder again and made my ascent.  Repeating the effort with my plastic bag covered arm and hand – scooping away the debris, I again heard the sound of rushing water down the downspout.

While putting the ladder away, I told myself – “problem solved.”

About an hour later, I was thinking back on the task I completed and it hit me.  My fear of heights was overshadowed by the fear of the water damage to my home.

THAT’S  IT!!!!!

If you want to overcome a fear – simply find something to overshadow it.

In my mind, I envisioned the enormous cost of the water damage vs. the small cost of clearing out the gutter.

You want to tackle a fear?   Do as I did.  Dwarf your fear.

Have a great week.

Ron  

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Trick or Treat

In just a few days, the little goblins, witches and ghosts will be knocking at your

Maybe during this scary season, we should be asking ourselves about our own personal development and leadership abilities.  It’s always good to look inward, and do a check up from the neck up.  However, in doing so – if our purpose is truly to grow forward – we need to be brutally honest with ourselves.  Anything less would be a simple con game and serve no purpose in our growth.

Trick or treating is an event that goes well beyond the nightly rounds through the neighborhood seeking Hershey bars, Kit Kats and an occasional candy apple.  There is the costume search – the “who do you want to be”?  Shall I be a cartoon character, a movie character, or a standard “punk rocker or hobo?”  Then there is the decision, should I make the costume or buy it?  Of course, this leads to what to put your treats in – a grocery bag, a purchased Halloween bag or plastic bucket?  Or should I just tote it all through the neighborhood in a pillow case?

Then the progression of events leads to the “trying on of the costume.”  After these decisions have been made, there is usually a Halloween party or two to attend.

All this could be regarded are Trick or Treat Foreplay.  The build up for the main event is dramatic.  Then the final pre-event sound – the fire whistle blowing acts as a “gentlemen start your engines” to the masses attacking the streets as the sounds of laughter and rustling of leaves fills the cool night air.

So what does this have to do with personal development?

Answer #1.  Trick or Treat is about dressing up in costume.  So, in your encounters with individuals in the work place, at church, in the neighborhood, and even at gatherings – ask yourself – do I wear a mask or am I genuine?  Do I try to be someone I am not?  Often the person behind the mask is more easily fooled than the people looking at them.  Often times, they know the truth.

I am not saying one needs to “air their dirty laundry” all the time.  I am saying be sincere, be honest, be yourself.

If you don’t like who you are, work on changing you.  Make adjustments, improvements, upgrade to a new you.

Ask yourself – am I wearing a mask?

It doesn’t take people long to figure out you are not the super hero you are disguised as.  And, once they figure you out, they see you more as the sad hobo.

Answer #2.  Trick or Treat is about getting candy and goodies with little to no effort.  A simple knock on the door and a magical 3 word announcement gets a prize.

Sadly, many adults have clung on to this form of entitlement mentality.  Maybe you know someone who fits these descriptions.  Or, perhaps, you see yourself in one of them.

•    They want it with little to no effort.  Then when a problem occurs – the blame game starts.
•    They think if the chant the right buzz words that they will get the prize.  At the end of the day, when they look in their bag, they realize it is NOT the prize they had wanted. 
•    They get so caught up in the “gimmie” mentality that they compromise their own worth and self esteem.
•    They justify their entitlement mentality by saying things like, “I do a lot for this company.”  Or, “For all the free time I put in, the least they could do is give me one of these.”

Some may say, “I am not like that”.  Really?  Go to an event at a conference or convention center and watch the people as they pass by the vendor tables grabbing up on brochures and pamphlets they have no intention of utilizing.

I have even seen people visit a church – and as they stand in the foyer, their eyes scan the racks of booklets and devotionals hunting down their prize to take home.

I think it’s bred in to all of us – somehow.  We all want something for nothing.  The real question is – are you strong enough to resist the temptation?

If not, your actions may come back and haunt you.  

Have a great week.

Ron  

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Thanks

Thankful

In last week’s blog, we talked about Waking Up and putting your mind in a positive frame.

This week, I’d like to touch on a “step 2” to that process.

Thanks is the theme of this week’s blog. 

When you wake up in the morning, before your feet hit the floor – name 5 things you are thankful for.  At first, your “thankfulness” may be very simple – like being thankful for pillows, blankets, a comfortable mattress.  But after a few days, your “thankfulness” will transition to things with a little deeper thought rather than an “surface” kind of thanks.

Then at lunch time – incorporate into your break – thinking of 5 more things.

Once you get in the routine – add 5 more things at dinner time.

BTW – these may or may not be vocalized to others.  It’s your option.

Finally, add in 5 more things at bed time.

Before you know it – each day, you will ne naming 20 things you are thankful for.

Try it – then share your results with me on Facebook or via e-mail.


Have a great week.

Ron  

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Waking Up

So, what do you do when you wake up in the morning?

I mean besides the standard potty break and brushing your teeth.

Those first few minutes can set the tone for your entire day.

For many of us, we like to have our set pattern down – so we do not have to do anything that even remotely requires thinking.

For others, we continually smack the “snooze button” on our alarm clocks until we realize that we MUST scramble to prevent ourselves from being late (again).

Do you talk to yourself?  What do you say?  Is it positive and uplifting?  Is it reaffirming? 

Or is it negative and beating you down before you have had a chance to get up?

For some, this may be obvious – but for others, this may be encouraging. Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, and the like all have the same amount of time in their day as you do.  24 hours.

Dr. Mike Murdock has said many times “each day, we all get 24 gold bricks to spend however we want in a day.”

The gold on those bricks can tarnish quickly when your day starts on a negative note. 

Your mind hasn’t even ramped up to full speed from its REM time and your are programming it with garbage.

If you want your day to start off better – then, simply start it off better.

Say some constructive, uplifting things to yourself.

“I am going to attack this day.”

“Today, I will accomplish a lot.”

“I am going to make a difference in someone’s life today.”

“I am lucky to be chosen to tackle this day because I am the one for the job.”

You see, your mind does not know the difference between sarcasm and truth.  When you program in sarcasm – the mind reads that as a fact.

Look in the mirror in the morning and say something great about yourself.

Try it – you’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.

Let me know how you are doing.  I am anxious to hear YOUR results.

Have a great week – winner.

Ron  

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Class Reunion

This past week, I attended my high school class reunion.  It was great getting to see old friends and people you have not heard from in many many years.  Thanks to Facebook (many classmates have connected and stay in touch using social media) I was able to spend some quality time with the group.

Class reunions can be difficult for some, tragic for others, and an opportunity to “let yourself go” for others.

Let me explain.

At every class reunion, the old school stories seem to resurface.  Some stories are funny, some are strange. Some are sad.  But then there are the ones that seem to be eternally damaging.  You know, those stories that you wish no one would remember.

At some class reunions, there is a bit of (what I call) posturing.  Some folks show up with the sole intent of elevating themselves and their achievements while devaluating others around them. 

If you need to brag about your success, then you are NOT a success.

At some reunions, class members seem “stuck” in a time warp of nothing’s changed since they scored that winning touchdown in their senior year.

If your purpose is to attend the class reunion so that you can try and recreate days gone by – stay home.  Most people have moved on, and regenerated themselves to keep up with the times.  Don’t go with the intent of dragging people backwards.

At some class reunions, there are people whose purpose is to dredge up that relationship with an old flame.  If that is your purpose – stop for a minute and think – maybe – just maybe – that person has actually found their life’s mate and has lived their life in the present while you remain stuck in the past awaiting “your song” to come on the radio.

Fortunately, I saw nothing but positives at my class reunion.  People were posing for silly pictures at the photo booth.  Classmates were singing to the familiar songs of our time.   Some couples were enjoying the beautiful view from the banquet room windows.  And, of course the pairings and groupings of conversations abounded in the banquet room entrance area.

Over the years, some of the guys have lost some hair, and / or gained a pot belly.  The ladies may have required a bit more make-up, hair coloring and push up bras. 

But, it was a fun night to get together and laugh, chat, and be yourself with people who knew you before you were the new you.

Maybe we are all getting too old to cling to the old caste system that existed in high school.  Maybe we all have come to the realization that we all shared a significant number of years together – know each other’s story – and just wanted to spend some time with people we don’t always get to spend time with.

Class reunions can be a blast.

But the key is to keep moving forward.  Daily work toward a better you.  Don’t cling to the past with a death grip. 

Look at your past like it’s a rear view mirror of a car.  You can see where you’ve been.  You can learn from it.  You can use it as a point of reference.  But, know that you have a wide windshield of opportunities, experiences, adventures and life ahead of you.    

Thanks WMS Class of ’73 for all the memories.

Have a great week

Ron    

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Non Verbal Communication Skills

This week, I would like to share some thoughts on Non Verbal Communication.  This form of communication covers everything from what you wear to the way you walk to the way you shake hands, to eye movement.

I can tell you more about you before you even open your mouth to introduce yourself.

You may say you are quiet and reserved – but if you dress like a peanut vendor at the circus – I ain’t buying what you’re saying.  You may say you are a strong confident person, but if your handshake is limp and gummy – your words are telling me nothing.  You may say you are a person of integrity and good character, but if you cannot make eye contact with me when you are talking – you have not fooled me a bit.

If you are in sales (and since all of life is sales – everyone should be nodding to the affirmative) then non verbal communication is critical to life.  As a sales person, you want to be as truthful as possible.  Your body language, dress, facial expressions should be in sync with what you are saying.  You should convey the real you to your client. 

Non verbal communication can be helpful to the sales person.  Through these subtle messages a sales person can easily detect what the client or potential client is in need of, what triggers their hot button, and what is needed to close the deal.

If you are a buyer – you can sniff out the smoke blower sales person in a heartbeat.

If you would like to learn more about non verbal communication skills, I would be happy to come speak to your group, team, or business.

Some helpful tools to grow in this area are:
•    How to Read a Person Like a Book
•    Color Test
•    You Call That Selling

Have a great week

Ron    

To schedule Ron to speak to your business, civic group

or organization, contact him at:

ron@ronorendi.com

717-802-0483